God revealed to me that in marriage, it is a wive's duty to her husband and vice versa, to keep him holy, and to SEE HIM as pure and blameless.
Eph 5:25-27
" Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless."

and I thought, wow. i didn't know that.
In the world of today, we're so good at blaming each other, and to see that God has called us to something higher...its amazing